Comment by seethedeaduu
3 days ago
If you don't pass you are universally treated as a freak, and if you transition late you have usually wasted your time dissociating. At the same time regardless if you pass or not, you have to deal with transphobia (if you are not stealth) and with people with good intentions who are uninformed and try to discourage you and make you repress and waste your life. Being treated as a male is not something that a trans female will benefit from, even if male upbringing is commonly associated with privilege.
OK, yeah, that makes sense. I guess that it shouldn’t really be surprising that there are a lot of hidden factors to these things than can be immediately intuited by the outside observer, therefore making logic and reasoning less than useful.